When Emotions Run High: Techniques for Keeping Calm During EHCP Meetings

Christopher 'Chigg' Ba(Hons), Dip CBH, MNCH(reg)

Christopher 'Chigg' Ba(Hons), Dip CBH, MNCH(reg)

Founder:Bohangar City Practice: (ex Banking Analyst): Transforming Minds, Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy.

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Every parent wants the best for their child, especially when they have special educational needs. However, the process of advocating for your child’s needs in an Education, Health, and Care Plan (EHCP) meeting can be emotionally overwhelming. These meetings often involve discussions about your child’s challenges, potential limitations, and necessary support, which can trigger stress and anxiety for parents. In this blog post, we will explore the common problems parents face during EHCP meetings, offer effective solutions to keep calm amidst emotional turmoil and introduce a therapeutic solution offered by the Bohangar City Practice: 1-to-1 Cognitive Behavioral Hypnotherapy (CBH) therapy.

Identifying the Problems, why do our emotions just run and run

EHCP meetings are crucial for ensuring that children with special educational needs receive the appropriate support and resources. However, parents often find themselves grappling with intense emotions during these meetings, which can hinder effective communication and decision-making. Some common problems parents face include:

  1. Overwhelming Anxiety: The thought of discussing your child’s challenges and future can provoke anxiety. The fear of the unknown and concerns about your child’s well-being can create an emotional storm within you.
  2. Fear of Judgment: Parents may worry about being judged for their child’s needs or their ability to provide proper care. This fear can make them hesitant to express their concerns openly.
  3. Information Overload: EHCP meetings often involve complex educational terminology and legal jargon. Trying to understand and process all the information provided can be overwhelming, leading to confusion and frustration.
  4. Emotional Overload: As a parent, hearing about your child’s limitations and challenges can be heartbreaking. Emotions like sadness, frustration, and even anger may surface during the meeting.

Solutions for Keeping Calm

To maintain your composure and advocate effectively for your child during EHCP meetings, it’s essential to implement practical techniques that help you manage your emotions. Here are some solutions to consider:

  1. Preparation is Key: Familiarize yourself with the agenda and topics that will be discussed in the meeting. Research educational terms you might not understand. Having a clear understanding of what to expect can reduce anxiety.
  2. Deep Breathing: Practice deep breathing exercises before and during the meeting. Deep, slow breaths can help calm your nervous system and keep your emotions in check.
  3. Empowerment through Knowledge: Educate yourself about your child’s needs and rights. The more informed you are, the more confident you’ll feel during the meeting.
  4. Positive Self-Talk: Replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations. Remind yourself that you are advocating for your child’s best interests and that your concerns are valid.

Introducing 1-to-1 Cognitive Behavioral Hypnotherapy (CBH) Therapy

While the above techniques can certainly help, sometimes external support is necessary to effectively manage stress and anxiety during EHCP meetings. That’s where the Bohangar City Practice’s 1-to-1 CBH therapy comes in. This specialized therapy is designed to address the unique emotional challenges parents face during these critical meetings.

1-to-1 CBH therapy focuses on:

  1. Stress and Anxiety Management: Through tailored techniques, CBH therapy helps parents manage stress and anxiety, allowing them to approach EHCP meetings with a clearer mind and calmer emotions.
  2. Building Resilience: CBH therapy equips parents with resilience-building tools, enabling them to navigate difficult situations more effectively and bounce back from emotional setbacks.
  3. Learning Coping Skills: With the guidance of a skilled CBH therapist, parents can develop new coping skills that specifically target the emotional challenges associated with EHCP meetings.

The Benefits of 1-to-1 CBH Therapy

  1. Personalized Approach: Each parent’s journey is unique. CBH therapy offers a personalised approach that addresses individual concerns and emotional triggers.
  2. Holistic Well-being: CBH therapy not only targets the emotional challenges of EHCP meetings but also promotes overall well-being, fostering a healthier mindset.
  3. Long-Term Resilience: The coping skills and techniques learned in CBH therapy extend beyond EHCP meetings, empowering parents to manage stress and anxiety in various aspects of their lives.


EHCP meetings are emotionally charged events that parents of children with special educational needs often find challenging to navigate. By implementing the suggested techniques for managing emotions and anxiety, parents can approach these meetings with a calmer and more focused mindset. Additionally, for those seeking specialized support, 1-to-1 Cognitive Behavioral Hypnotherapy (CBH) therapy offered by the Bohangar City Practice can be a transformative solution. This therapy equips parents with the tools they need to manage stress, build resilience, and develop effective coping skills, not only for EHCP meetings but for life’s challenges in general. Remember, advocating for your child is important, and taking care of your own emotional well-being is equally crucial.

Note from the Author on this Article ‘Chigg’

The insights and guidance presented in this article stem from a blend of personal encounters with the EHCP review process and a deep-rooted professional understanding of CBH therapy. The author, having personally navigated the intricate maze of the EHCP/SEND process from its initiation to its ongoing stages, brings a unique perspective to the table. This hands-on experience is further enriched by a Diploma in Cognitive Behavioral Hypnotherapy from the esteemed UK College of Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy, and a certification in understanding Autism.

Before venturing into the realm of Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy, the author carved a successful career spanning over two decades in Investment Banking, with significant roles in global hubs like the City of London, Singapore, Frankfurt, and Zurich. This background, although seemingly distinct, instilled a passion for relaxation, self-hypnosis, and the art of simplifying complex problems.

Today, channeling this passion and expertise, the author has established the Bohangar City Practice. This venture is a testament to their commitment to assisting others through Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy, drawing from both their professional training and personal journey with SEND. This article, thus, stands as a credible and empathetic guide for parents embarking on or navigating the EHCP review process.

Disclaimer, Please Read: The information provided in this article is for illustrative and informational purposes only. It does not establish a therapist-patient relationship. For medical issues or emergencies, always consult with a licensed medical professional. For non-clinical challenges related to stress, anxiety, and other emotional or behavioural concerns, considering a consultation with a therapist may be beneficial. Bohangar City Practice is a registered Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy practice, specializing in combining cognitive behavioural techniques with hypnosis to address various challenges and promote well-being. Any questions, please do reach out

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