journey of Resillience beyond the EHCP process

Navigating Life Beyond EHCP Struggles: A Family Journey of Resilience

Christopher 'Chigg' Ba(Hons), Dip CBH, MNCH(reg)

Christopher 'Chigg' Ba(Hons), Dip CBH, MNCH(reg)

Founder:Bohangar City Practice: (ex Banking Analyst): Transforming Minds, Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy.

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Navigating the EHCP Journey: Emotional Challenges and Beyond

Embarking on the path of securing an Education, Health, and Care Plan (EHCP) for a child with Special Educational Needs (SEN) is a testament to a parent’s dedication and love. This journey, while essential, is often accompanied by a whirlwind of emotions, from anxiety to determination. Yet, when the dust settles and the EHCP process concludes, what remains? Beyond the paperwork and meetings, parents are left to navigate a new chapter, one filled with hope, potential, and the quest for renewed resilience.

The Emotional Aftermath of the EHCP Process

Successfully navigating the EHCP maze is a monumental achievement, but it’s not without its emotional scars. The relief of concluding the process can be overshadowed by lingering feelings of exhaustion, isolation, and uncertainty about the future. Years of relentless advocacy and battling for our child’s rights can leave us questioning our next steps. The emotional weight of past challenges can cast long shadows, leading to moments of self-doubt and questions about our identity outside the realm of advocacy.

Understanding the Broader Impact: Siblings in the EHCP Journey

The EHCP process, while primarily focused on the child with Special Educational Needs, casts ripples that touch every member of the family, especially the siblings. These young individuals, often in the midst of their own developmental and emotional journeys, find themselves deeply influenced by the EHCP process. Here, we delve deeper into understanding this impact and the ways to address it.

1. Emotional Challenges Faced by Siblings:

Siblings of children with SEN often grapple with a myriad of emotions. From feelings of neglect due to the attention their sibling receives to confusion about their sibling’s needs, these emotions can be overwhelming.

  • Feelings of Isolation: With the family’s focus often on the child with SEN, siblings might feel left out or believe that their problems and achievements are less significant.
  • Guilt and Confusion: They might feel guilty for being “normal” or not understanding their sibling’s challenges fully. This guilt can sometimes manifest as resentment or frustration.

2. Building Resilience in Siblings:

Resilience is the ability to bounce back from challenges with a positive mindset. For siblings, building resilience can be the key to navigating the emotional complexities of the EHCP process.

  • Open Conversations: Encourage open dialogue at home. Let siblings express their feelings, concerns, and joys related to their brother’s or sister’s journey. Validating their emotions can be the first step towards building resilience.
  • Engage in Therapeutic Activities: Consider activities like art, music, or even simple mindfulness exercises. These can offer them a space to express, understand, and process their feelings, fostering emotional well-being.

3. Therapy and Personalised Support:

Therapy can be a transformative tool for siblings, offering them a space to understand, process, and navigate their emotions.

  • One-on-One Therapy Sessions: Personalized sessions can help siblings address their unique challenges, offering coping strategies and emotional support tailored to their needs.
  • Group Therapy: Engaging in group therapy can offer siblings a sense of community, allowing them to connect with others who share similar experiences, fostering understanding and mutual support.

The Perception of Injustice: Siblings’ Exposure to the EHCP Process

While the EHCP process is designed to ensure children with Special Educational Needs receive the necessary support, the journey to secure this can often be fraught with challenges. For siblings observing this process, it can be particularly distressing as they witness what appears to be an inherent injustice in the system. This exposure can shape their perceptions and emotions in profound ways.

1. Witnessing the Struggle:

Siblings, even at a young age, are astute observers. They witness the countless meetings, the paperwork, the advocacy, and sometimes, the disappointments their parents face. This firsthand exposure to the hurdles just to secure basic educational rights can be eye-opening.

  • Developing a Sense of Injustice: Watching their sibling go through numerous assessments and meetings, only to secure what others receive without question, can instill a sense of unfairness. They might question why their sibling has to fight for what should be a given right.

2. Emotional Repercussions:

The perception of this injustice can lead to a myriad of emotions in siblings.

  • Frustration and Anger: They might feel anger towards the system that seems to make things unnecessarily challenging for their family.
  • Empathy and Protectiveness: Witnessing the challenges can also deepen their bond with their SEN sibling, leading to heightened empathy and a protective instinct.

3. Addressing the Perception of Injustice:

It’s essential to acknowledge and address these feelings to ensure siblings process them healthily.

  • Open Dialogue: Create a safe space for siblings to express their feelings about the EHCP process. Discuss the reasons behind the challenges and the importance of advocacy.
  • Therapeutic Support: Consider therapy sessions where siblings can delve deeper into their feelings, understand the broader context, and develop coping strategies.

Exploring the Potential of 1 to 1 CBH Therapy

Navigating the EHCP process can be a tumultuous journey, and as it concludes, many find themselves at a crossroads, seeking ways to process and move forward. One avenue that has shown promise for many is Cognitive Behavioral Hypnotherapy (CBH) therapy. As someone who has personally traversed the EHCP landscape, I can attest to the emotional challenges it presents and the potential benefits of therapeutic interventions.

In the nurturing environment of CBH therapy sessions, we collaboratively explore the emotional aftermath of the EHCP process. We sift through the layers of stress, anxiety, and residual feelings, recognising the resilience that has been a constant companion throughout the journey. By connecting past experiences with current emotions, we aim to craft a narrative that fosters strength and clarity.

CBH therapy offers tools and techniques to help reframe perspectives. Together, we address the emotional complexities that the EHCP process may have introduced. By confronting and understanding these emotions, we can transform potential roadblocks into stepping stones for personal growth. Tailored to individual needs, CBH therapy seeks to harness the mind’s potential, promoting healing, resilience, and a rejuvenated sense of optimism.

Guiding you through this therapeutic exploration, I combine professional insights with the depth of personal experience. Having navigated similar challenges, I appreciate the intricacies of transitioning beyond the EHCP phase. With empathy and a genuine commitment to well-being, I aim to provide a supportive space where individuals can delve into their post-EHCP journey, fostering a renewed sense of purpose and identity. For those interested, there are also therapists who specialize in working with young people, offering them a tailored approach to address their unique experiences and emotions.


Navigating life beyond EHCP struggles demands an evolution of the self – a journey where we transition from an advocate to an empowered individual. Guided by 1 to 1 CBH therapy, this journey becomes one of healing, growth, and renewed purpose. The challenges we’ve faced become stepping stones, propelling us towards a future where resilience leads the way and possibilities are limitless. Together, let’s embrace this next chapter with open hearts and the unwavering belief that brighter days lie ahead

Note from the Author on this Article ‘Chigg’

The insights and guidance presented in this article stem from a blend of personal encounters with the EHCP review process and a deep-rooted professional understanding of CBH therapy. The author, having personally navigated the intricate maze of the EHCP/SEND process from its initiation to its ongoing stages, brings a unique perspective to the table. This hands-on experience is further enriched by a Diploma in Cognitive Behavioral Hypnotherapy from the esteemed UK College of Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy, and a certification in understanding Autism.

Before venturing into the realm of Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy, the author carved a successful career spanning over two decades in Investment Banking, with significant roles in global hubs like the City of London, Singapore, Frankfurt, and Zurich. This background, although seemingly distinct, instilled a passion for relaxation, self-hypnosis, and the art of simplifying complex problems.

Today, channeling this passion and expertise, the author has established the Bohangar City Practice. This venture is a testament to their commitment to assisting others through Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy, drawing from both their professional training and personal journey with SEND. This article, thus, stands as a credible and empathetic guide for parents embarking on or navigating the EHCP review process.

Disclaimer, Please Read: The information provided in this article is for illustrative and informational purposes only. It does not establish a therapist-patient relationship. For medical issues or emergencies, always consult with a licensed medical professional. For non-clinical challenges related to stress, anxiety, and other emotional or behavioural concerns, considering a consultation with a therapist may be beneficial. Bohangar City Practice is a registered Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy practice, specializing in combining cognitive behavioural techniques with hypnosis to address various challenges and promote well-being. Any questions, please do reach out

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